In this post I will answer two questions from a reader about how to bless someone.
I made a short video with the answers and you can find that here:
Question 1: “Should I bring up the person’s face in the blessing? It’s hard to picture them and say the blessing at the same time.”
This is similar to a recent question that we had about visualization.
And as with that question, my basic answer is that your ultimate goal is actually to experience a sensation in your body when you do the blessing, to feel it in your body.
In the manifesting world this is often referred to as experiencing a “vibration” in your body, a kind of energy. If that works for you, use it. I simply think of it as experiencing a feeling in my body.
So, if it helps you to bring up the person’s face when you are blessing them, absolutely do that. If that’s a challenge for you, then it absolutely works if you can just have a kind of sensation or a kind of feeling about the person. Obviously you are aiming for a positive feeling or sensation, like love or compassion! π
Here’s an example of what I say and do when I’m saying a blessing.
I often bless my mother, so I’ll use her as an example. Though I’m not such a visual person, I do call up her face first, and then I just have a loving feeling for my mother.
Then I just send her blessings, like “May you be happy” “May you be healthy” “May your hip not hurt” “May you have fun with your friends today,” like that.
Question 2: “Should the blessing be more cosmic than specific?”
My friend, who was asking the question, wanted to do a blessing for her son.
When she was doing the blessing, it would bring up some negative thoughts and emotions.
She gave me this example:
“When I bless my son, I want to say, please let him not talk back to authorities.”
In her case, she started thinking, “Oh, he’s not going to do that,” which sent her thoughts down a negative path.
She had the sense that this kind of blessing might not be the best way to go.
And she asked, then, if the blessing should be more a cosmic good will wish, or if it could be specific, like wanting him to do certain things.
So, when we are blessing people, I think we are not trying to give a direction or intention about their actions. We really are just sending them love and goodness and happiness.
This is especially important if we are sending blessings to someone that we find challenging. This is a great exercise to do, as I mention in the free Get Unstuck mini-guide.
So the easiest way to do that and to keep your mind in the blessing mode, instead of slipping into being pissed off or upset with a person that you have challenges with, is to really focus on sending them goodness and light and love.
This is not easy and you need not do it very long β even a few seconds is good β just send them love and peace. I often say, “May they feel respected and loved and honored, and may you have all the things that I wish for myself.
I hope that’s helpful!
So, there you have it on the topic of how to bless someone.
And now I’d love to hear from you.
What is your favorite way of blessing people?
Or, if you’re having any challenges, or have any questions for me, please leave them in the comments below.
Thank you. Have a great day.
Love,
Yolanda
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Liz says
This is very helpful. Thank you! Someday I would like you to address the purpose of doing the blessings.
Yolanda O'Bannon says
I’m so glad it helps! I will do one on the purpose of blessings!
xo
Philippa de Sausmarez says
A visualization of sending an offering of beautiful scented roses from my heart to theirs.
For a sick or injured person one can visualise them jumping up from their bed, in perfect form. But I’d like to know how to send blessings to a person who is dying or has just died…? Thank you dear Yolandaβ€
Yolanda O'Bannon says
Beautiful, Philippa xo If I were to bless a person who is dying, I would think of them and send them love, and a wish to feel at ease and free of pain and fear, and gratitude for the role they have played in my life. For someone who has died, I think people can turn to their particular spiritual path — for me, I would wish them a good rebirth, and to be relieved of any fear in the Bardo. If someone is Christian, you might imagine them (or feel the feeling of) them being in heaven. I hope this helps!
Sunny O'Neil says
Thank you. This is so helpful – it answers my own confusion about how to send blessings.
Btw, do you have any advice on laziness? I try to remember about my precious human rebirth, and other advice in the Lamrim, but it’s not sinking in.
Thank you!
Yolanda O'Bannon says
Hi Sunny! You are welcome xo One thing that helps me if I’m not feeling motivated is to remember what result I want from the practice. In this case, one thing is to help the person I’m blessing. Also, I want to feel happier, and I feel happier when I bless others. As the Dalai Lama says, this is “selfish altruism.” We give benefit to others and we also benefit ourselves π Hope this helps!